Creating Your Guest List: Etiquette and a How-To Guide
 

There are a lot of ways to address people, especially today, and sometimes what is traditional and formal, just doesn’t feel as personal.

Weddings have changed a lot over the past decade, and the type of event you are planning can help you quickly determine how you want to address your guests, because let’s face it, there are enough more complicated decisions you’re having to make right now. Here’s the low-down, the quick tips, and the options you can pick from as you prepare your guest list:

Creating a Guest List

Build a List that You Can Repurpose

  1. Create your list in Excel, or export it from The Knot/WeddingWire to a spreadsheet.
    Have columns for: name, street, apartment, city, stateand zip code. If you are able to separate them all out, it makes your list easier to use for a variety of purposes beyond envelopes.

  2. Be sure that each column shows the name and address exactly as you'd like them to appear on the envelopes. ex. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

  3. Always spell out states. Always.

  4. I also recommend spelling out roads, avenues, circles, drives. It will look so much more complete when your guest’s receive them.

  5. Proofread your list carefully! Someone always moves while you're trying to get your invites out–that's ok and we can fix that... just make sure all of the cities line up with their zip codes and the street address and apartment number are correct. 

Etiquette for Addressing Your Guests

Traditional Guest Addressing

Emily Post has the quickest guide for breaking down your most traditional guest addressing. You can’t go wrong with tradition— most people don’t question or argue with it.

Semi-Formal

Married Couple

Mr. and Mrs. John and Anna Smith

Families

I suggest sending a separate invitation for anyone in a family that is over 18, but still lives at home.

The Jones Family
or
Mr. and Mrs. John Jones and Family
or
Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
Lilly, Doug, and Collin

Single

Ms. Laura Edward

For younger ladies, under 18 address as:

Miss Lilly Jones

Dating

Address the guest who you are closer with first regardless of male/female
Ms. Anna Smith and Mr. John Wallace

Divorced

This is a tricky one, and you may want to consult a parent on their preference for this one. Some divorced women still prefer to be addressed as Mrs. You may want to ask if they go by their maiden name since their separation
Ms. Diane Pearson

Widow, not remarried

Mrs. Rachel Walker

 
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Using Templates to Address Your Own Envelopes
 
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I am a huge advocate for templates. I teach about them in my workshops, and I use them on almost every project. You will be able to address envelopes faster, and more consistently with the assist of a template.

They are almost perfect, but here’s the biggest flaw: You can’t use them on dark colored envelopes, or envelopes with a liner already in them. For those situations, a lot of calligraphers love and use a SliderWriter. I personally don’t love this tool because the laser hurts my eyes, so I will set up a table template using a string and taping it down. I slip an envelope under the string and eyeball half-way down the envelope. Then I put a piece of tape on the table as a marker for lining up the next envelopes I write. I do use a laser level for other kinds of projects like signs and mirrors, but for envelopes, I’ll stick with templates.

We are going to look at how I address light colored envelopes with a template. If you’re lining your own envelopes, hold off on inserting those until after all of the envelopes are addressed.

 
 
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STEP | 01

MAKE YOUR TEMPLATE

Cut a piece of card stock or bristol board to the dimensions of your envelope.

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STEP | 02

MEASURE YOUR LINES

Using a pencil, measure to the center of the bristol board both horizontally and vertically.

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STEP | 03

KEEP IT SIMPLE

If this is a first-time project for you, I recommend writing the guest’s name in calligraphy and then using capitalized block lettering for the street address.

Measure .75” from the guest’s name line, make a couple of marks and use them to draw a straight line. From that line, measure another line down .75” for your city, state, and zip code.

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STEP | 04

MAKE THE LINES BOLD

Go over your pencil lines with Sharpie so that they are bold. Put the template into the envelope as though it were your invitation so that you can see the lines through the paper.

Address your envelope, remove the template, and insert it into another blank envelope. To avoid smudging when you remove the template, make a few templates so that you can leave one in the envelope while the ink has a chance to set and dry before you remove it.

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STEP | 05

INSERT YOUR TEMPLATE

Insert the template, and begin writing! I like to make the top line of text larger so that the guest’s name stands out a little bit more, and then use the two address line guides to keep the text smaller.

Let me know how your project turned out, and if you have any questions, leave a comment below for me to answer.

 

Life Hack:

Some light envelopes are still hard to see the template through. You can purchase a light pad which will shine light through the envelope making the template easier to see.

Comment with any questions you have as you begin your own envelope projects! We can troubleshoot together.

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Our Design Process
 

While our process can be broken down into three chapters, custom invitations sometimes require custom processes too. Communication is always the top priority, and how we ensure that you will have an invitation suite unique to you that you love.

No. 01 | Design Consultation

This is a phone call to understand your style and design plans. After the phone call, I will send you my questionnaire to collect the important details such as how to spell your names and create wording for your invitations and details cards.

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No. 02 | Artwork & Proposal

Part two of the process shows you artwork and layout ideas. The proposal will outline all of the details your suite could include: handmade papers, silk ribbons, wax seals, and so many other possibilities. This will be your first look at the actual design of your invitations before we begin proofreading them.

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No. 03 | Your Vision Comes to Life

Once invitations are thoroughly proofread, we oversee all printing and production of your stationery. We work with professional printers that specialize in printing invitations with letterpress and foil printing. The majority of our digitally printed invitations are printed in our studio using some of the best printers on the market.

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Choosing the Best Printing Method for Your Wedding Invitations
 

Choosing the best printing method will depend on when you need your invitations to be delivered, how much you have budgeted, and the design or style you love.

You probably didn’t know, but next to the quantity of invitations you will order, the printing method you choose will influence the cost of your invitations. You’ll quickly be able to know which printing method is right for your project based on cost, timeline, and artwork.

Learn more about when to send your invitations 

Each printing method has different strengths and weaknesses. Digital printing can look like original artwork, or a long-lost love letter. Letterpress turns into a keepsake, something tangible. Foil printing is truly metallic, and can be printed on so much more than paper.

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Digital Printing

Cost: $
Timeline: 2-4 weeks from approving your final proof
Why do I love it
When digital printing is done on high quality paper, it will look like each piece was done by hand—not printed. We take this into account when designing for a digitally printed invitation suite to make the artwork look like a true work of fine art.

How it works
This method is probably the most familiar to all of us. Put the paper in the printer, and out pops the artwork magically on the page. There’s a little bit more to it though, good digital printing happens when the machine is tuned to perfection. It takes an experienced and watchful eye to customize the settings for each job, and keep them consistent throughout the entire production of your invitation suite. Because of this, we do almost all of our digital printing in-studio to ensure the highest and most consistent quality we can.

Consider This
The most important consideration is the kind of paper used. High quality cotton papers can make artwork look like each piece was done individually by-hand.

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Letterpress

Cost: $$
Timeline: 6 weeks from approving your final proof
Why do I love it
It gives your invitations dimension, meaning they don’t feel two-dimensional like a flat piece of paper, they feel three-dimensional… more like a keepsake.

How it works
We’ve all heard of the printing press right? That innovation that changed history by making information sharable through books and newspapers (which are almost extinct today). Using similar printing machines as back then, letterpress printed invitations trumpet these early and important printing methods.

First, a plate is ordered and made, this can take 1-2 weeks. Artwork is raised off of the plate like a stamp, but these stamps aren’t made of rubber, they are made of hard plastic. During printing, weight is applied to the plate as it’s pressed into the paper. It takes a lot of force to

Consider This
Only one color can be printed at a time on the press, and each color needs it’s own unique plate. Adding multiple colors can quickly make your invitations expensive.

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Foil Printing

Cost: $$$
Timeline: 6 weeks from approving your final proof
Why do I love it
You can print on any color and texture of paper, such as velvet or wood (and so many others).

How it works
Like letterpress, foil printing uses a plate and a printing press machine. Foil printing adds another component to the printing process though: Heat, and metallic foil. Plates have to be made from metal, and are heated to around 220 degrees during printing. When the metallic foil is sandwiched between the hot metal plate and the paper, the foil is pressed into the paper permanently leaving you with foil printed cards that have a three dimensional feel.

Consider This
Foil printing is priced by the size of your card, not by how much foil is used. Doing two printing methods on your invitations will actually cost you more not less than printing the whole card in foil.

 
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Writing Quotes and Making Layouts
 
 
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Yay! You’ve gotten your lettering practice started, but maybe you’ve been dreaming for another way to use those letters. Creating layouts with grid paper is an easy way to make those super cute quotes you see on Instagram. The best part: you can reuse your grid paper templates over and over again!

P.S. At the end of the post, you can download a printable version of my quote!

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Supplies you’ll need

Grid Paper
Marker Paper
Pencil and/or Black Marker
Ruler
Dip Pen + Ink

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STEP 1:
making a
diagonal template

You can make all kinds of layouts, this one is for writing five lines on a diagonal. On the left margin of your grid paper, measure 3” from the top, make a little notch mark. On the right margin of your grid paper, put a notch at 2” from the top. Use your ruler to create a straight line between the two notches. You have your first diagonal line!

For the next four lines, measure 1.5 inches below the previous notch on both the right and left side of the page.

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STEP 2:
TRACE YOUR LINES

Trace over your lines with black marker to make them easier to see underneath of your marker paper when you begin your writing.

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STEP 3:
Layer your papers

Place your marker paper on top of your template. You can also clip this on your clipboard to prevent the paper from moving!

If you want to practice first, you can write your letters in pencil and then get the dip pen out to trace over your pencil lines.

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STEP 4:
Write away!

Write your quote using your dip pen! When you pull the marker paper off of the template, the lines disappear and you have a perfectly spaced out masterpiece!

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Day-to-Day: Where I Find Inspiration
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Running through the tall grass is almost a mental exercise more than a physical one for me. It’s a choose-your-own-adventure and I find myself torn between two mental states:

  1. How many ticks are in the grasses I am running through. The hypochondriac in me weighs the likelihood I just got Lyme’s disease against the freedom from worry about the what-if’s and could-happen’s.

  2. Letting go. Running. Getting burrs in my shirt. Just thinking: I live here. The air is fresh, the sun is shining, and today I’m a human who is a little outside of her day-to-day office box.

Obviously I would love to live in mental state #2 a little bit more often, and that’s what being the brawn behind Kindly does for me. I get to share a little bit more of who I want to be and who I am becoming. Thank you for encouraging me to keep running through the tall grasses.